I'm writing this as the thought occurred to me as the lady-wife dragged our crying 4 year old son who had to be rudely woken up for a birthday party, that he had said he didn't wish to go!
She had to go as it was an invitation from a co-worker's of hers and wanted to maintain good relations with her. The co-worker's son just turned one so it is obvious that the kid was no "friend" of our son and hence his understandable reluctance.
What's more, he had just had his sleep rudely disturbed. My parting words to the lady-wife were to be patient with him.
How many times parents force their kids to do something just it because it gives them greater pleasure than for the kid?
I remember while growing up my parents would force us to do something that they found cute in front of the neighbors and visiting relatives! I'm sure you know of similar cases or maybe done something similar if you're a parent.
I agree there are certainly times when kids have to be forced to ; but this should be few and far between not a matter of habit of trying to "convince" them of our way by brute force.
I recently bought the following book as I admit I'm still learning how to communicate effectively with my kid without raising my voice or resorting to violence (read spanking). Even my wife will admit that I have more patience dealing with children than with her or other adults and accuses me of being part of the problem!
I'm yet to receive it
http://www.betterworldbooks.com/Raising-Children-Compassionately-id-1892005093.aspx
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